The book project aims at raising one’s conscientiousness (wishing to do what is right) through knowledge extracted from a personal experience that anyone can use to emancipate himself from the slavery of compulsive sexual habits through spiritual deliverance and a process of building mental strength to take back and secure control of his/her mind. The book is not just a story but is complete with a step by step therapy program which the author used on himself and any one upon understanding the principals and concepts laid down in this book can apply them on himself to get spiritual deliverance and acquire mental strength to not only take control of his mind but build a fortress around his mind to prevent relapse.
For every one;
Many of us have helplessly watched our loved ones live a wasteful life of promiscuity and other forms of compulsive behavior such as drugs and alcohol. The great teacher taught that how can one enter a strongman’s house and plunder his goods unless he first binds the strong man.
In this book are solutions on how you could guide and support a loved one to freedom from compulsive sexual behavior
The book is not only for those who are struggling with compulsive sexual habits but is also for those who wish to walk the walk of ABSTINENCE without struggle but with understanding and those who are married to properly manage their sex lives to guard against infidelity. You see, during sexual intercourse or indulging in other forms of sexual pleasures, that event, plays out on two realms simultaneously that is the physical as well as the spiritual. Unfortunate for many, they are not aware of this fact. What? is easily understood is the physical reward that is the gratification which is temporal but what is unknown to many is that there exists a spiritual reward which is long lasting as more will be explained in the book.
We are a sexual being and there for the need to quench this desire is part of being human. The book shades light on the grim reality of this quest to obtain gratification for our sexual desires and also states ,why? and how? we should guard our walk in trying to obtain sexual pleasures so that we avoid from coming to pass in our lives the proverbial saying that ‘His own iniquities entrap the wicked man and he is caught in the cords of his sin’.
The author shares the ramificative drastic effect from a personal perspective of what a compulsive sexual habit can have on other aspects of an individual’s character like loss of self-esteem, low drive towards achieving set goals, creativity, temperament, being easily offended, unforgiving, loss of mental strength to conceive and nature good ideas to fruition. And the dramatic positive turnaround of these characteristics upon achieving victory.
The author shares the ramificative drastic effect from a personal perspective of what a compulsive sexual habit can have on other aspects of an individual’s character like loss of self-esteem, low drive towards achieving set goals, creativity, temperament, being easily offended, unforgiving, loss of mental strength to conceive and nature good ideas to fruition. And the dramatic positive turnaround of these characteristics upon achieving victory.
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In this book, the author:
· Present his own struggle with pornography, masturbation and promiscuity.
· Present compelling spiritual and physical insights and reasons why one should guard his sexual faculty to avoid from losing control of it.
· Present a wide variety of battle fronts in which the author faced with this problem and its remifficative effects on other aspects of his life.
· Present many true-life conversations with those who are struggling and the impact it has had upon their lives and those close to them.
· Shows how the social and cultural trends that glorify, or is complacent to erotic pervasive life style has affected the generation.
· Presents many encouraging true-life conversations with individuals who have overcome and their thoughts about the problem.
· Presents a step by step process of how one upon understanding the principles and concepts can begin to apply them in his life to achieve the same positive results as the author did.
In this book, the author:
· Present his own struggle with pornography, masturbation and promiscuity.
· Present compelling spiritual and physical insights and reasons why one should guard his sexual faculty to avoid from losing control of it.
· Present a wide variety of battle fronts in which the author faced with this problem and its remifficative effects on other aspects of his life.
· Present many true-life conversations with those who are struggling and the impact it has had upon their lives and those close to them.
· Shows how the social and cultural trends that glorify, or is complacent to erotic pervasive life style has affected the generation.
· Presents many encouraging true-life conversations with individuals who have overcome and their thoughts about the problem.
· Presents a step by step process of how one upon understanding the principles and concepts can begin to apply them in his life to achieve the same positive results as the author did.
The principles and concepts are structured around;
1.0 Self Image;
Bob Proctor in his your BornRich program stated that when we think we think in pictures and James Allan in his 1930 classic As Aman Thinketh said a man is made by himself out of the armory of thoughts he fashions weapons to destroy himself or build heavenly mansions of peace joy and strength.
In the book reader’s conscience will be raised to help them make right choices to erase the old man and create a self image of the new man who is empowered to make right choices and firmly plant him in their subconscious mind to replace the old man that is controlled like a puppet on string with crave and compulsive sexual behavior.
Now the BIBLE warns that once an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest and finds none then he says I will return to my house from which I came and when he comes he finds it empty and clean and put in order Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself and the last state of the man is worse than the first one. It is there for crucial that when one is trying to beat a nasty habit that he prepares himself for a counter attack which can be lethal. In the book are mental strength building programs that will help one build a fortress in his mind which will quickly detect the old man’s ways and instantly terminate his thoughts barring them from ever coming to fruition. A person empowered to that level can instantly kill a thought before it takes root in the mind.
2.1 Abstinence by choice;
The book re-defines abstinence as not just the physical restrain from engaging in sexual intercourse but from the words of the great teacher that if you have done it in the mind then you have done it in the flesh, in the book are discussions about the challenges of abstaining as well as benefits of true abstaining. It puts forth wisdom woven in the principles and concepts whose proper application will give one the ability to abstain without struggle.
2.1.1 Abstinence for Marriage;
In the book the Author advocates for intermittent abstinence to be practiced in marriage as a way of strengthening partners and keeping the levels of sexual excitement at a high and therefore promote faithfulness.
3.0 Spiritual dimension of Sex; Bondage and Deliverance
The book talks about the mind as a creator and willful controller of thought and that the ability to control the mind in an area/faculty can be lost to an unseen or spiritual power forming an addictive state or Bondage. The great teacher taught saying that one who commits sin is a slave to sin. An addictive behavior is characterized by a mind which generates unproductive and sometimes destructive or unwanted thoughts whose intensity is far greater than ones will to control and therefore enslaving him and like a puppet on a string it controls him. What has power over our mind has power over our being generating thoughts that cause us to compulsively crave or act in ways that we do not want just as the apostle Paul stated in the BIBLE; ‘the thing i want to do that i do not do but those things i don’t want to do that i do with zeal a spiritual state called bondage. In our walk in pursuing gratification from our sexual desire, we should guard against spiritual elements that can get into and take over our minds and cause addiction or bondage. In this case unless one is spiritually delivered he/she cannot gain full control over his mind and guard against slipping back(relapse) as commonly observed. This explains why many therapy programs commonly used are not effective because they focus majorly on Physical restrain from those un a proved sexual pleasures that an addict craves for coupled with threats but none of those can cause a person to act in the way that is right, as the saying goes you cannot scare an addict. In the book are effective ways of dealing with this problem that focuses on deliverance, empowerment through renewing of the mind. Then to beat relapse there are ways of building mental strength through self hypnosis and guided meditation.
4.0 Understanding Promiscuity;
Readers will be given a rear perspective of promiscuity as a condition of an ever present or easily triggered sexual desire. This condition is acquired through improper management of sex and our sexual faculty which is a major cause for infidelity. It will be discussed how the commonly accepted ways of obtaining sexual pleasures can actually lead to this condition being acquired. Readers will find out why the therapy for prostitutes or promiscuous persons is not effective enough to create positive change and prevent relapse. In the book are powerful solutions on how a promiscuous state can be avoided or how a person in this condition can be restored from a two prong approach which are developed on spiritual and physical planes.
4.1 The Mechanics of Promiscuity.
The author uses the analogy of the body as an electrical system to hypothesize Promiscuity. It is explained that when the mind is excited a thought is formed which generates desire in this case sexual desires or sexual energy which arouses the body. Now this energy creates a state of instability and while in this state the body naturally yarns to dissipated this energy through the act of sexual intercourse. The dissipation process should lead to complete neutralization of this energy marked by achieving orgasm or satisfaction. However some individual through improper management of their mind and body with respect to sex fail to completely neutralize leaving residues of this energy in the body. This can cause a person not to or in other instance rarely achieve satisfaction even after repeated sexual engagement. This un dissipated energy is what keeps a person in a state of constant desire or whose sexual desires are easy to trigger. A condition in promiscuous persons who latter become prostitutes when they seek monetary gains for their ability to engage with multiple partners as a result of this condition. Married people who mis-manage sex can end up creating this condition in them leading to unfaithfulness. Readers will also be given a spiritual perspective of how promiscuity can be acquired through the quest of seeking gratification from their sexual desires or exposure to negative erotic material. This knowledge will enlighten them to be able to make good decisions to protect their marriages and sex lives.
5.0 Building a strong mental faculty. (Living in this world);
In today’s state of overt sexuality, it is nearly impossible to avoid the barrage of erotic propaganda portrayed in all forms of media, a suggestion could be that one either goes to another planet and live there or keep avoiding and running away but for how long...The great teacher prayed that we not be taken out of this world but that we should live victoriously in it. The truth is One should build his sexual house on a rock so that he can ward off all forms of sexual barrage from entering and taking control of him by building a metal fortress in and round his mind.
Who am I and what is my story;
I’m a 35 year old practicing accountant living in Kampala Uganda one of the East African countries not married and without child third born of eight. In June 2010 my life took a turn. I got into a fight in a bar at 2:30am in the morning with this rugby team mate During the scuffle I got hit on the head with a bottle of beer which slightly bruised my fore head, though the blow wasn’t strong to cause serious injury to my face, but it was the hardest sense that was knock into my mind. At that time i was caught up in a life of beer, rugby and promiscuity.
Many had tried but in vain to advice me against this dangerous life style that I was caught up in. But that incidence at the bar got me for the first time to think positively for once. I critically examined my life and for the first time I saw how low the life I had been leading has gotten me so far, I had reached that point of the prodigal son in the bible; I said to myself Patrick see haw low you have become;..you see things happen to people not because of who they are but what they have become. I said to myself Patrick look at what you have become. You are now getting into fights and being hit on the head with a bottle. Next thing you know you will be bitten by a dog or attacked by thugs or end up behind bars (prison).I knew this was awake up call and if I didn’t change my life style then I should not be surprised when more of those things start happening to me. Bob Proctor made a statement that our world and the things around us are forever a reflection of who we are. It was then that I decided to change and live a positive life. While at my journey, I discovered a whole load of issues that I had to deal with in order to change from the person I was to the good person I wanted to become.
The great teacher made these statements in the BIBLE that Anyone who is tired of his life should come to him. Those that want to follow him must deny themselves pick up their cross and follow him. And that those who will hate their current life for a better life will find it. I had come to that point of realization of the deplorable life style of the person that I had become. I searched and truthfully understand the good person that I wanted to be and could become. I then made an honest decision to become that person that is in image and likeness. The decision to live a clean life before God and to abstain till marriage raised other devils in me such as masturbation, pornography a promiscuous tendency that I had to deal with.
Many had tried but in vain to advice me against this dangerous life style that I was caught up in. But that incidence at the bar got me for the first time to think positively for once. I critically examined my life and for the first time I saw how low the life I had been leading has gotten me so far, I had reached that point of the prodigal son in the bible; I said to myself Patrick see haw low you have become;..you see things happen to people not because of who they are but what they have become. I said to myself Patrick look at what you have become. You are now getting into fights and being hit on the head with a bottle. Next thing you know you will be bitten by a dog or attacked by thugs or end up behind bars (prison).I knew this was awake up call and if I didn’t change my life style then I should not be surprised when more of those things start happening to me. Bob Proctor made a statement that our world and the things around us are forever a reflection of who we are. It was then that I decided to change and live a positive life. While at my journey, I discovered a whole load of issues that I had to deal with in order to change from the person I was to the good person I wanted to become.
The great teacher made these statements in the BIBLE that Anyone who is tired of his life should come to him. Those that want to follow him must deny themselves pick up their cross and follow him. And that those who will hate their current life for a better life will find it. I had come to that point of realization of the deplorable life style of the person that I had become. I searched and truthfully understand the good person that I wanted to be and could become. I then made an honest decision to become that person that is in image and likeness. The decision to live a clean life before God and to abstain till marriage raised other devils in me such as masturbation, pornography a promiscuous tendency that I had to deal with.
You see you will never get to know what evils are seeded in within you laying low until you make a decision to become better and walk right.
Earl Nightingale in his book The strangest secret in the world said Decide what you want then go ahead and be that person. When I looked back and studied my victorious journey I discovered certain principles and concepts which I used to become free and build a fortress around that area of my life. These principles and Concepts can be used by anyone who wants a life free from nagging habits. Habits are parts of the building blocks of the person that you are; so you just cannot quit a habit you have to change the person that you are and like magic that dreaded habit will fall away and be erased; it will no longer have a handle on you.
You see a habit can only stick with you or on you because it has a handle on you. Change you and its handle will be no more and like magic it vanishes as I dramatically experienced it when the Yoke of masturbation, pornography and a promiscuous mind set was instantly broken. Readers will be excited and enthused by the drama that marked the Cutting of the strings of the Puppet master marking the end of the power of crave to masturbate, to watch porn and indulgency in promiscuous thoughts and putting control of my mind firmly under my will .I remember that Saturday morning like it was yesterday.
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